Say you go out to parties a lot, or to the bars/clubs. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course — it’s a great way to meet people, but in these kinds of settings, some people aren’t always truthful. You can meet a guy at a club who claims to have it all together, and then when you meet up with him the next day, his car is breaking down.
Or maybe it’s a little bit more than that. Maybe he talks about his great job, but he never seems to have it together to pay for your dates. Or he’s edgy about his phone — a lot of serial cheaters will often play the bar/club scene to find new partners without their original partner knowing. It can be really tough to figure out if you’ve got a good guy when all you know about him is what he tells you.
This can also extend to online dating. Some people feel insecure about their looks, so they might use a picture from when they were younger or even go as far as to use someone else’s picture. This is called catfishing, and it’s more common than you think. People who catfish will refuse to meet up in person, and make you rely on non-visual ways of communication like phone calls or texting.
So how do you know if you’ve got the right man? How do you know if you’ve got a good man? It shouldn’t be as hard as it is to determine things like this, but that’s what it’s come down to. Luckily, an investigator can get to the bottom of this. In a physical case, where you’ve met the other person but they don’t seem to be on the up and up, they can follow them for a few days. If you’re worried that you’re the other woman, they can figure that out for you. In an electronic case, investigators can track down the person behind the photo very easily; if they’re a catfisher, they might even use the first picture they find off Google Images!
It shouldn’t be hard to find someone who’s who they say they are, but in the world of modern dating, a lot of men will do everything they can to appear like the best possible version of themselves, even if it means pretending to be something they’re not.